The Basics.

On this page you will find a basic concept and some core terms on which my work is based. I believe that cutting a problem into its smalles parts is key to understanding and archieving a sustainable change.

The 5-step approach

Use it to gain clarity over the situation, understand the painpoints and understand where you need to act to improve your situation.
You can influence steps 2-5.

  • 1. Facts

    What did actually happen? 


    Here we look at neutral facts about the situation.

  • 2. Thoughts

    How did your mind interpret the facts? 


    We observe your thoughts, driven by your beliefs and life experiences.

  • 3. Feelings

    How did your thoughts make you feel?

    Your thoughts trigger emotions, reflected in the body. Feelings are always logical, however they can be projections from the past.

  • 4. Actions

    How did you act based on your thoughts and feelings?


    Our thoughts and feelings trigger a certain reaction within us (action or inaction).

  • 5. Results

    What consequences did your actions lead to? 


    We can influence our actions, which in turn have direct impact on our life.

What is a belief?

Beliefs are convictions and assumptions. that we hold about ourselves, others, and the world around us. They arise from early life experiences, the opinions and beliefs of significant others (e.g. family), as well as culture and society.

Being a grown up means checking in, whether our beliefs from childhood depict our current reality. We can also identify those holding us back from better relationships, work success and a more fullfilling life.